A Father of the Bride Speech

March 8th, 2010

Most dads are nervous about their father of the bride speeches. This is especially true if they aren’t use to public speaking. If you are asked or going to ask them to do a father of the bride toast; make sure you give them plenty of time to come up with a good speech for the wedding.

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Wedding speeches are difficult for a lot of people. Most have no concrete idea of what they should say beyond congrats! This can result in some strange, and embarrassing toasts. If you plan on having anyone propose a toast at the wedding make sure you inform him or her ahead of time. If you’ve been asked to make a speech, especially the best man and the father of the bride, please put some effort into it. This is a special day and you don’t want to make it embarrassing by saying the wrong things.

For the best man that means no mentioning past girlfriends or things done in drunken stupors. This will most likely only make the bride angry. Don’t take away from her day even if you don’t always like her! Try to stick with the man your friend (the groom) is, and how happy he is with her.

For fathers in your father of the bride speech, try to stay away from mentioning past relationship mistakes, and please don’t include embarrassing childhood moments, (for example, no one wants to hear that the bride use to insist in wearing her underwear backwards; especially the bride). Stick to how proud you are of the woman your daughter turned out to be and her accomplishments.

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The most important thing to any good speech is practice. Write it down and practice saying it. Do it A LOT! You would be surprised how much it helps when your speech is routine and you are nervous. Also, take your written down speech with you. If you have to you can read it right off the paper. It’s better than drawing a blank when it’s your turn to speak and filling in with dribble you didn’t really want to say. Remember that it’s your daughter’s wedding and it’s a happy day. Speak from the heart and every thing will be just fine.

In concluding your speech it’s traditional to include a bit of advice. This doesn’t have to be anything elaborate and if your really think about it there are a TON of them out there. Saying like, “Don’t go to bed mad”, “Always stay the best of friends”, and “Love each other well”, or “Be good to each other”, can all be considered bits of advice. So pick a little piece of advice you want to pass along (perhaps something you learned personally) and then add in the well wishes for a long happy marriage filled with laughter and everything they could ever wish for and you are done. Lift your glass to the bride and groom, take a drink, bow and you’re done! Nothing to it!

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What Makes Father of the Bride Speeches Sincere?

February 28th, 2010

A good father of the bride speech is sincere. If you try to make an overly happy speech it will sound fake.

Weddings are a joyous, but usually emotional affairs. This is especially true for the parents of the bride and groom. That’s something you probably didn’t consider. As father of the bride it’s easy to zero in on your daughter, but try to remember the groom and his parents when giving your speech. You don’t necessarily have to say anything about them or to them directly, but remember they are there when you’re talking.

It’s natural to want to reminisce, but try to stay away from embarrassing childhood moments. Saying that you remember the bride, as a little girl dancing all the time is good, even endearing. Mentioning that she was decked out as a punk rocker singing into a hairbrush while she showed off her latest (uncoordinated) dance moves will probably only embarrass your daughter. So reminisce but keep it simple. Some details are better left out.

In closing most father of the bride speeches offer a bit of advice and well wishes. This isn’t all that hard to do. Keep it simple, like never stop talking to each other or always remain friends. After that a “We wish you every happiness” or “May you always find happiness with each other” seals the deal and you’re done.

My Father of the Bride Speech

February 28th, 2010

Weddings should be happy occasions even for parents. As father of the bride you should remember that in your speech. While most fathers are nervous about wedding speeches, it’s really rather easy if you speak from the heart. You may not even really know the man she’s marrying, but keep in mind that he makes her happy when you are talking.

Keep your father of the bride speech simple. You don’t need an elaborate toast at all. Simply express how proud you are of your daughter and the woman she’s become, and wish her and her husband every happiness that marriage can provide.

You can add a bit of humor by pointing out that there will be little things that will drive the other crazy. For example his dirty socks on the living room floor and she might always burn the biscuits, but that’s not the reason they got married. They got married because they love each other flaws and all.

Keep it sincere, simple, and practice it and you should be fine. You may want to write it out and take it with you in case you forget what you wanted to say when the time comes. Most of all be happy for your little girl!